Studying in a Girl’s school was absolute fun. The one-hour of lunch break was a great gossip time. Starting from the 6th grade to 12th grade was real bliss. Ignorance is real bliss. The gossip was mostly on boys, first love, the first kiss, pregnancy, childbirth etc.
Then the college gossip was little bit matured. One of my classmates in college once told me that the first thing that a woman would notice about a man is his arm. It’s the forearm, the part where it starts at the elbow and ends at the wrist, sometimes even right through to the fingers that he’s talking about - the ‘X’ factor. I pondered a little over what she said, and of course I asked her what was the reason. Apparently, a woman who scrutinizes a man’s figure does it not because of lust, but rather to do an internal check if this man is strong physically, as it is a sure yet subtle sign of security to them.
Thus, a male hand with strong lines not only tells us this guy is physically strong, it also implies his manliness. Well, I took that with a pinch of salt, initially. Gradually over the years, I have come to agree with his statement. Or may be I have added shoulders to it!
Lets discuss only arms now. To me, the arms are more than just a symbol of masculinity. Holding hand is one of the most important and yet under-rated display of affection for a couple in Indian society from the olden days to now.
To a woman, being held by the man whom she loves makes her feel loved, and important. It also tells others that he’s taken, or I am taken and so acts as an instant ward-off for any potential predators. To a man, holding the hands of the woman he loves makes him feel important, that he is protecting and leading her, while also indicating to the world she is his.
Something as easy and effortless as holding hands can mean so much, yet, when a marriage has extended well beyond its honeymoon period, this simple gesture of love also fades away, especially with the arrival of kids. This scenario isn’t as common in the West as it is in the East. Asians are relatively shy in displaying affection publicly as compared to the western counterparts.
Good news is the newer generations of parents are becoming more generous in hugs and kisses. As I say this…I just remember the moment I kissed my guy when he was leaving to US for his Ph.D to Harward University at Chennai Airport in front of my parents and his and all the public seeing us. I knew he was gonna be away for two years. It has become a part and parcel ritual in a loving relationship as they realized the value intrinsic in these little gestures, to them and to the children. And it’s not just me, but many many others (usually women I must admit) who are like me lamenting how romantic and wonderful it is whenever they see old couples holding hands and enjoying a leisurely stroll, wondering if their guys would perform the same when their hair has all turned grey.
It is always an adoring and beautiful sight that warms one’s heart instantly, don’t you agree?
Wouldn’t it be great if we can start this trend and bring it forward to our next generation and beyond?
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Sweet n simple
you seem to be sweet but not simple man!!
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Hey sophizz,
Umm...talking @ a man's forearms n biceps....i guess i get to check them unknowingly too...(not for da muscles...but for the wild hair !!!) Crazyyy feeling ;-)))
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Sunil....i dont understand why kissing is not permitted in Indian outdoors?...
wel anyways...thanks a lot!
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hiya sophizz...
In America you find young couples kissing each other on the street,,,thats a rare sight in conservative India...I think India's still not ready for PDA...I mean what with our moral policing and our conservative culture...
Still your post had the freshness and I loved reading it...
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@yashasvi......its true that women feel secure with men...and in our indian society , i feel that there is a need for a man in womans life for all the emotional etc etc support!....
and the heart thing! grrrr
well you have a good sense of humor...and i appreciate that!
i m happy that you became a teen ager again after reading the post!...so here i say is the sucess of my writing...
thanks a lot for coming by...and do keep visiting for more! I promise to keep you a teenager!
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OH Now I know why Salman and SRK pump iron in gyms to make those bi-ceps and fore arm muscles.....
I am happy to note that females still find themselves secure with men..... femles see for physical security in men and men wish to get the emotional strength from women..... so what should men see when they meet the women...... they should see the part from where emotions emerge..... you mean the heart.
AH.... thats why men "see" there at the very first time they see a female...... and you females always take it in other meaning..... hmmm
OOPPSSSS... a naughty comment from an oldie like me.... sorry... but this romantic write up made me a teen-ager again , so such a comment was expected naa
yashasvi
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@little sunshine.....
....thanks for the compliments n do come by !
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Something I realized after my marriage, I really miss holding hands with my ex......Good job!
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@Navl langa....yeah asking hands for marriage...there should be some psychological connection...
thanks a lot for coming by!
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Is it, the hand subject, not relevant when we talk about 'asking for her hand', especially the marriages are arranged by parents?There must be some psychological connection behind such a phrase. Well, Nice article.
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